A white lie is not that clean

Words are vibrations

While we may tend to accept white lies from others and also use this trick ourselves, we may not fully be aware of its consequences on the level of our cells. Unless you’re a child or a senior, a population which usually speaks its truth without any filter -aka white lie, you are guilty as charged, darling. I challenge you to claim you never made a white lie. There. You know you did. I did. I do. Now, today we know thanks to experts like Bessel van der Kolk that the body keeps the score. When talking about traumas, it’s widely known and proven. While I am aware and convinced there is no level of trauma -trauma is trauma, for the sake of this argument, I will call white lies mini traumas. From my point of view white lies are similar to a silent wound, an energy eater who makes its way in the dark to get you, just like a Special Forces unit would attack. You don’t see them, you don’t hear them but you do know when they strike. And when they strike, it’s too late for you to be saved. Well, in the case of a white lie, your energy is attacked as well as the person you are lying to. Whether you lie for a “good” reason to protect someone, flatter someone, enhance someone’s self-esteem even, you have to be aware of what’s going on. Sorry not sorry I am an advocate for living a life with awareness.

To practice the art of white lying, approach your lie as a mindfulness practice. Be aware of what you are doing when you are doing it. I know, I see you frown already but please, darling, bear with me. When you are aware you are lying as you are lying, it gives you a wonderful opportunity to witness yourself and pause. By entering that space you will give yourself two options: to lie and do nothing special or to lie and take action. Doing nothing special means you let the commando enter your cells and complete their mission. Taking action means you shift from a position of victim to a position of warrior. By becoming a warrior you take the power back. You refuse that a white lie imprints any kind of bad vibes in your cells. It means you totally accept the fact you lie while making sure you are aligned with your lie.

Be aligned and aware, your cells will thank you. Because everything in life is vibration.

And when your whole body vibrates in tune, then it means you are aligned. And true alignement is what we want to be healthy.

Now let’s consider the white lie from the receiver’s point of view. The white lie may help if the liar is aligned and thus talented when lying. And the lie would in that case, help the receiver. Yet if the liar is not gifted and thus not aligned, well this white lie can turn into an energetic disaster for the receiver. First the receiver can immediatly see the white liar is lying. It might trigger some bad vibes. Second, if the white lie is not perceived as a lie, the trigger will be silent. It rises in a very subtle way. What’s the best? Who am I to declare one is okay and the other one is not? Well let’s pause for a moment. It’s not that simple. Just like most of things in life, there is no right or wrong, black or white, but it’s in between the various shades. And just like when you are choosing a new paint for your living-room walls, it’s up to each individual to decide. We have free will.

Again what makes sense is your attitude, your why and your posture. Consider how you lie, why you lie and how you deliver your lie. Then proceed. Secondly, if you suspect someone of white lying to you, well you have two options too: tell the liar you know he/she is lying. You will be surprised how hilarious the situation can become. Then you can also decide to keep your mouth shut for reasons which are personal to you. Now that option won’t necessarily do you harm, darling, and it’s not a matter of being a coward. It can be the act of a true gentleman or lady to decide to accept the white lie as it is: a white lie. No harm intended. Yet bring to your mind body and spirit the necessary detachment so that your energy is not shifted or attacked by the fact you accepted the lie without mentioning to the liar you knew she/he was lying. Basically do your inner cleaning without telling anyone about it. Scan your body, observe your breath. When you feel the right moment to exhale all that BS has come, well choose you favorite way of getting rid of the energy eater: exhale deeply, sing, shout, dance, shake your body as if your life depended on it -in a way it is, and celebrate the warrior you are, the badass and the refined person within you. If you are into yoga, do a warrior pose. If you are into running, well put your running shoes on and run. I root for you. You are fabulous.

You are a masterpiece in progress. Don’t beat yourself up if you lied in the past and still lie, you are human. Just remember words are vibration and so choose them as wisely as possible. Again, practicing meditation for example will help you live, love and talk with awareness, detachment and compassion. So dive deep into a blissipline, it will make you a better liar if you have to be one, and a better lie receiver too. You will cultivate your ability to make lightness of being your mantra, and thus allow a space to be created within you, where energy eaters will struggle to enter.

For a white lie to be clean, it takes time and practice. Just like when you are young and start to clean your own laundry. You make mistakes, your favorite sweater shrinks, your white pants becomes grey, the ketchup stain on your tshirt doesn’t go away and all of the above may leave you devastated. Keep practicing and you will be proud of you.

Love from V.